Friday, August 8, 2014

Change of Scenery

Early this morning, I was perusing the Houston Chronicle and stumbled upon an article that just reminded me of how much our city has grown. So many people are moving to Houston, Texas from around the world.

Well, I had the pleasure of relocating a beautiful family from Connecticut to Houston, and it’s just so good to hear and read all the wonderful things they have to say about my city. Here’s a few things to keep in mind when you’re relocating to a new city, and relocating with children:

  1.      .. Children can have mixed emotions about a move. It’s not about having just one big talk with them. Parents should probably have a series of talks with them. It may take them just as long as it has taken you to feel good about a move.
  2.         Use the move as awesome bonding experience and a resilience builder.
  3.         Find the perfect home; take everyone into consideration, even the children. Give and take a little bit. Try to make sure everyone is comfortable.
  4.         And finally, get out find things to love about your new city. It’ll make the transition a lot easier if you can go out and find/taste the best ice cream you’ve ever had in life! J

Until next time,


Wednesday, February 26, 2014


Why do good neighborhoods have such low inventory?

  •             60% of the buyers are from out of town and they’re looking for GREAT SCHOOLS.
  •       Majority of the Buyers are educated executives and education is a driving force in their decision-making.
  •            All time record low interest rates.
  •            People are afraid to put their house on the market, unless they have a place to go.
  •       If you are thinking of selling your home, this is a great time.  Inventory of homes in good neighborhoods are Low!

Friday, January 31, 2014

Mr. President!

Dear Mr. President,

Your recent comment about marijuana just shows how little you know.
Your daughters have the advantage of coming home to a supervised home WITH AN INTACT FAMILY.  They do not go home to an empty apartment or HOUSE like so many AMERICAN children do.  Your children will have guidance (although after your stupid statement I worry about what type of guidance) on the subject of marijuana many kids will not EVER HAVE.  I have been a volunteer/board member of the Boys and Girls Club and tutored children in schools to bring them up to grade level.  I can tell you many of these kids are beating the odds but when someone they admire and want to grow up to emulate makes an IDIOTIC stupid comment, we lose more kids and it makes our job much harder.
I have a 20-year-old son and one of the lessons I have tried to teach him is “just because you think it, does not give you the right to say it.”  When he was in 7th grade a boy was suspended because he hit my son.  I asked "why he hit my son" and he said "he called me Fat".  I made the school suspend my son.

Mr. President you are welcome to voice your opinion when you can do so from experience as a parent.  When Sasha and Malia EXPERIMENT WITH pot and you see first hand "THAT IT IS NO WORSE THAN ALCOHOL", then you are entitled to an opinion.  Your opinion should be based on YOUR PERSONAL experience.  Because you think it, does not give you the right to say it.  You should just go up to all the volunteers trying to help mentor kids and slap us in the face.  It would have been much easier on us and at least the children would be protected.

The reality of what you have done is made impressionable kids think marijuana is OK.  For the kids that have the hardest odds against them, you have just made it harder. Does this make you feel proud? Do you feel like a hip parent?

Sissy Lappin 

Wednesday, January 29, 2014

Real Estate Malpractice!

In the past few months, I have become increasingly sensitive to something that has been getting overlooked when buying a home.  The reason for this is I have seen two very serious cases of this.  If there was ever a case to file a complaint this should be it.
My daughter was having severe migraines and getting regular facet blocks in her neck. While she was in recovery one day, I struck up a conversation with her neuro-radiologist. You could probably tell from her title that this was a woman who was smart and who had gone to school for a very long time; she had to have been at the top of her game to get the degree she did. Education was a clear priority in her life. She asked me what I did, and I told her I was a real estate broker. “Can I pick your brain?” she asked me.

Well, she’d taken such good care of my daughter that I would have given her a kidney if she’d asked. “By all means,” I said. The neuro-radiologist told me that she and her husband (a pediatric cardiology surgeon, by the way) had two children ages 3 and 5, and had moved to Houston 18 months prior. They had applied to all the private schools and had gotten turned down by every one. “Those schools only take siblings and legacies for lower school” I assured her. She and her husband had bought a home in a nice neighborhood, but one that didn’t have the best schools. “I saw online that the schools were rated as “Acceptable,” said the neuro-radiologist, a look of consternation on her face. “Do you think that’s okay for our kids? Or should we have bought something elsewhere?” “What did your real estate agent tell you?” I asked her.

She shrugged. “She never mentioned schools. But now we sort of want to move.” I couldn’t believe what she was saying. I thought to myself—her real estate agent should be sued for malpractice. Obviously, education is a huge driving force in this family’s life, and you sell them a house with “Acceptable” school ratings? And now, fast-forward 18 months, they have to move to a new neighborhood because of the crappy schools. I tried to break the news gently. “Real estate agents don’t always consider everything that they should,” I said. “I had to start work within a month,” said this mild-mannered doctor regretfully. “We had to pick a home quickly. I thought that real estate agents were supposed to be experts! It’s like, when they call me into the operating room, there’s nothing I’m not considering about the patient—why isn’t it like that with real estate?”  

“I’m not sure,” I told her. “I’m really sorry. I always tell my clients that buying a house is like picking a spouse. You have to think pretty far ahead into the future.”  

The Questions An Agent Might Not Ask are the most important ones!

Do you have kids? Do you want to have kids? Are you going to have more kids? Do you need to consider school districts? Have your kids been in the same private school forever, and you couldn’t care less about your school district? Are your kids moving out for good? Or, do kids scare you and you know you never want to have them? Are you close to your workplace? Do you absolutely detest commuting, or are you happy to go for a cheaper neighborhood and drive an hour to work every day? Maybe commuting de-stresses you—I have a few clients (mostly lawyers, interestingly enough) who feel that way. Is there a possibility that your parents might be moving in at any point? Do they have any health conditions that would require a one-story, or a house with a full bath downstairs? If buying a house is like picking a spouse, looking for a house is like dating. It’s really easy to get swept away by the beautiful marble countertop, the huge backyard, and all other forms of glitz. But a house, like a spouse, is an enormous and long-term commitment. You need to think about the future and ask yourself the questions that may not be sexy but are far more important than the chandelier in the dining room.  Before you say, “I do,” you need to use common sense as well as your emotional leanings. Sure, love is blind, but this isn’t the time for it! I have seen so many real estate ads that say, “Buy with your heart, not your head.” Well, consider the source and the motivation for that statement: it’s all about that commission.

Thursday, November 14, 2013

A MUST READ!! Becoming Successful in Houston...

This article below pretty much SUMS IT UP! I couldn't have said it better!

'I Wanted to Be Successful, and I Could Do That in Houston'

'I Wanted to Be Successful, and I Could Do That in Houston'
Aaron Cassara
Dena Washington isn’t the sort of Millennial we tend to read about in scary trend pieces about a “doomed” generation. She’s 28 and married, with a son in elementary school. She’s college-educated and has a good job servicing business accounts at Reliant, one of the largest energy companies in the Houston area. She’s been working there for the past seven years, has excellent benefits and a 401k. Two and a half years ago, she and her husband bought a house in Spring, a suburb that’s technically inside Houston’s city limits.
In other words, she’s living the American Dream—or at least the retro dream many of us still clung to before the recession hit.
Fast-growing Houston is now the fourth largest city in the country. It rakes in money from its energy and medical industries, which in turn trickles down to the arts and restaurant scenes. While many of the cities in this series are still slowly bouncing back from the downturn with the help of enthusiastic young people, Houston was barely ever dinged.

Dena Washington. (Photo by Aaron Cassara)
"There’s always another job here," says Washington, who grew up in the Third Ward, a working-class—but gentrifying—African-American neighborhood (from which BeyoncĂ© also hails). “Before I even graduated, I was doing work in the energy field and working in tech support and picking up all these side gigs. There’s tons of money here."
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A city flush with cash and professional opportunity is attractive to people like Washington, who don’t particularly want to rehab a warehouse or dive headfirst into a risky startup, but instead seek what their parents had: a stable nuclear family with a steady income. “Having a family was very important to me, but I also wanted to be successful," she says. "I could do that in Houston, so I stayed."
Washington is a member of HYPE, one of Houston’s many groups for young professionals. “There’s a big networking culture here,” she says. Larry Ting, 27, who grew up in Houston and now works for the Anti-Defamation League, says the city “definitely has a professional atmosphere” and that “so many businesses are looking for smart, innovative college-educated people.” Ting, who’s a first-generation American from a Chinese immigrant family, has contemplated moving to other big cities like Los Angeles or Chicago, but remained after graduating from the University of Houston because it seemed like a good place to become upwardly mobile.
"I know in the past [young people] may not have asked themselves, ‘What’s the best city that can really provide for me financially?’ You really just want to explore.” Nowadays, though, that question is relevant for risk-averse twentysomethings. For Ting, Houston still promises “the idea of ‘if you work hard, you’ll reap the benefits.'"

Larry Ting. (Photo by Aaron Cassara)
Like Washington, Ting lives in a part of town with a suburban vibe: a diverse, middle-class neighborhood called Spring Branch. He pays $450 for his own room and bathroom in a house with two other people. Because of its sheer size and lack of zoning laws—huge office buildings can be built next to quaint townhouses—it’s difficult to discern where the city starts and the suburbs begin.
That’s not to say Houston’s buttoned-up culture doesn’t have its funkier pockets. The Montrose neighborhood boasts the Museum of Fine Arts and the Houston Center of Photography, as well as several cool bars, restaurants, and coffee shops. Young people have also been flocking to Mid Main, a two-building corridor on the border of Montrose and Midtown—one person I met there called it “the rockabilly oasis”—with a barber shop, vintage record stores, and a cafĂ© by day, craft cocktail bar by night called Double Trouble. The area is a hub for visual artists, and not necessarily the starving kind. Nancy Douthey, 24, moved to Houston from east Texas not only because it has a “wonderful community of artists” but because “there are people who actually buy art and support the art organizations.” She lives in a combination house-gallery space called SKYDIVE, which also provides residencies for artists. She pays $250 a month for her modest room upstairs. (Though that’s cheap for Montrose: Douthey says some of her friends are finding more affordable places in the downtown warehouse area and Houston’s east side.)
Houston is also in the middle of a restaurant renaissance. A collection of fine dining establishments like The Pass, Hugo's, and Oxheart have recently received James Beard nominations and made their way onto national “Best of” lists. Yet, the scene is small enough that if you’re employed at one of these establishments, you can easily move up the ranks rather than languish for years behind the bar.

Justin Vann stocks shelves at D & Q Beer Station. (Photo by Aaron Cassara)
Two years ago, Justin Vann, 28, had just accepted a cushy job as the wine director at a Michelin-starred restaurant in San Francisco, when his friend Justin Yu called him and said he’d found a location for his new venture (which later became Oxheart). “I said, ‘you’re out of your mind, you’re too late! I’m going to start a new life on the West Coast,’” Vann recalls. But eventually he decided to stay and contribute to Houston’s growing food culture rather than “become a part of someone else’s program. Here, you can try to be the driving force of what’s happening.”
Vann eventually broke off from Oxheart and started his own business, a wine consulting company called PSA Wines. He’s been working with mom-and-pop restaurants around the city to help beef up their lists. When I visited Houston, he was stocking the shelves of D & Q Beer Station, a low-key mini-mart for “beer nerds,” with his curated list of interesting and not-very-cheap wines. Even though Houston is financially stable, there are still opportunities for entrepreneurs who want to take risks, he says, for a simple reason: everything costs much less here than in other cities of similar size. Vann, for instance, splits $850 in rent with his roommate in Montrose.
Yet it’s still a cautious, sensible entrepreneur who opens a business in Houston, since it offers a reliably large professional class. Ting is working toward his MBA and eventually wants to start a restaurant or small business like his immigrant parents. He seriously thought about moving to Austin, given its young population, but to him, “the city just feels like a college town.” Next to Austin’s revelry, Houston is the mature, moneyed older brother: “It has the resources and the population I’m going after.”
Nona Willis Aronowitz is a New York-based writer, editor, and author of Girldrive: Criss-crossing America, Redefining Feminism

Friday, September 13, 2013

Dear Mr. & Mrs. Manziel, IT'S GOING TO BE OK!

Dear Mr. and Mrs. Manziel,

I want to share with you some thoughts as a mother and a new Aggie fan. As a mother of two, I do understand having a rule breaking kid. Any mother with two or more kids understands this. Forrest Gump’s mom said the same thing. “Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re gonna get.”  God gives you one child that is such a rule follower that you hold your head up high. Parenting is great; I can do this. You think you should wear a t-shirt that says “for parenting advice call me at 713-Greatmom”. 

Then you have another one.

This is the kid that when the school sends home the Emergency Contact information card at the beginning of the year, you debate whether or not to give them your real cell phone number. This is the kid that get the “needs improving”, “likes to entertain the others” and “can’t sit still in class” notes beginning on his first report card. This is the one who forgot his school supplies and homework. This is the one making you dread the parent-teacher conference, again. It’s the one that makes you laugh most often. It’s the one who is unafraid to explore and maybe gets into something that he isn’t quite prepared for. This is the one who looks at you with that gleeful, grin making it difficult to discipline him. It’s the one who, having zest for all things, has his first coach spot something special.
This is my son.

So knowing my son was like this, we knew A&M would be a better fit or I should say, safer fit. If my son had gone to UT, he would have been home after the first semester.  Sixth Street would have become his forwarding address. (You have to be a Texan to understand the 6th Street scene in Austin) A&M, as difficult as it may seem to be there at times, is exactly where you want your son to be, trust me.

I attended the A& M/Alabama  game last week. As I looked out into the stands during the 4rd quarter, and the stadium was still full.  It was 96 degrees and the sun was beating down.  It was Texas hot. Those are true fans.  

I didn’t know much about football when I went to my first A&M game. I constantly annoyed my husband by asking questions with every play. Questions like why your son had so much free time to throw the football. He told me how the A&M offensive line is the best and they guard and protect your son so he can do his job. Sounds good. Teamwork was something that my son’s first coach instilled in those little guys.  Sometimes, I noticed that Johnny just ran around his line; I didn’t understand that either. My husband explained the concept of “dual-threat/read-option.”  He was right because I confirmed it on Wikipedia, right there on the Johnny Manziel page.

As far as A&M using him being a promotional tool for a new stadium, I want to thank him for helping.  The women’s bathrooms are disgusting!  The toilets overflow by half-time and the handicap facilities are non-existent.  Football stadiums are not just for high paying alumni but also for the little guy, and the girls.  A&M would be considered stupid if they did not immediately hold a fundraiser for a new stadium while A&M has a great team and your son is on ESPN daily. Besides, we have $100 oil, making individuals/companies much more willing to donate to their alma mater; it is just the right time.

Sharpie has gotten million of dollars of free press. I propose another fundraiser. Since Johnny can’t be paid, we ask Sharpie to donate school supplies to schools in Texas were kids can’t afford school supplies. Why not? Sharpie has their own website, complete with blog and fun art projects.  I guarantee, the mom of some 1st grader is already getting calls from her son’s teacher just like you and I did.
Besides, that is what we do in Texas we band together for causes. No kid left behind without a Sharpie.

I want to make this clear, I do not even begin to minimalize what you as a family deal with. ESPN has made your son out to be wild renegade. They say he’s been used as a tool for the university and commercial endeavors. Isn’t that is what makes him a great player? Isn’t that ZEST for life and sport what his very first coach loved?  

In order to understand Johnny you really need to be a Texan.  In Texas, taking a risk is a resume builder.  For example, in Texas if you started a business and had to declare bankruptcy, it is a bullet point on your resume. In Texas, the difference between the winners and losers is the winners tried a few more times. In Texas, we like to be unique and entertained. In Texas, football is king.

Someone once told me that when there is pain, you always want someone to blame. As a parent, that is a very natural instinct.  You want to protect you child.  I read that Mr. Manziel was upset with the A&M coach. I get it. You’ve spent your child’s life guarding him from name callers, people who say mean things, people who steal his school supplies, people who say he’s cheated, and people still saying that he “needs improving”, “likes to entertain the others” and “can’t sit still in class”  

I think it is time we all                    LET JOHNNY BE JOHNNY

and have some fun with it.  You’ve done what you can as parents. He’s going to be just fine!